Adding

More pleasure through stretch & fullness

Why Adding Feels so Good

Like a Hug on the Inside

Pushing outward against inside walls doesn’t create a ‘build to orgasm’ kind of pleasure but rather a satisfaction in and of itself. Sort of like how after a big stretch in bed after waking up, you can't help but smile and sigh, because it just feels so good.

The Thrill of the Fill

There’s also a breathless feeling from being totally full and stretched inside—like approaching a limit where you can’t take any more. Surrendering to that boundary-pushing feeling can be unexpectedly exciting.

Perspectives

“The pressure and the thickness of three fingers feels like the really lovely kind of stretch you get in your chest when you take a deep breath and hold it.”

Techniques

Adding With Fingers

While penises and toys are stuck at one width, you can add fingers one by one, curl them, spread them and even make shapes with them to put pressure against just the right spots. 76% of women who like Adding prefer a little bit of pressure and fullness added at a time—which fingers are perfect for! Going one by one lets the vagina get accustomed to each new thickness.

84%
of women find added pressure against the walls pleasurable

Edge Press Swirl

With one or more fingers inserted, make a circular movement so that your finger goes around the edge, pushing outward around the inner walls, at the opening or deeper.

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Kate

“More of a stretch”

Outside Press

There are ways to get a stretch feeling without actually penetrating deeply—this can be done by pressing a closed hand, palm or fingers in a cone-shape onto the entrance.

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Jessica

“Wonderful knuckles”

V-Stroke

With two or more fingers, make a ‘V’ so you’re pressing against the side walls of the vagina as you pull outward. This kind of pressure can make the walls relax and ‘balloon,’ creating even more sweet pressure.

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Kim

“Rotating and splaying”

Adding Two Things at Once

Combinations

30% of women love combining two things at once, like a finger, a penis or toy—at the same time. This might sound like a lot, but it can be a thrilling way to get that full feeling during penetration.

30%
of women like the fullness of two things in the vagina at once

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Olivia

“Something about the fingers”

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Kate

“Adding extra stretch”

Adding The Whole Hand

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Leslie

“My fisting journey”

An Intimate, Super-Fullness

For some people, there can be a lot of judgment around putting an entire hand into a vagina: it can seem agressive or 'porny'. But it can actually be very tender, loving and pleasurable. Most of the women who have discovered this say it’s something they like when they feel extra comfortable and trusting. And when they feel a hunger to feel even fuller.

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Shiraz

“The heady, spinny edge”

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Leslie

“The details”

The Thumb Tuck

Because a whole hand involves so much stretch, warm-up is key. Go one finger at a time, with a nice long break after each finger is in. Contrary to the myth, there’s usually no thrusting, just minimal, pulsing motions.

Perspectives

“Four fingers can feel so good, but only after going one by one, and putting in the next only when I’m good and ready. Each finger needs minutes, not seconds.”

Bringing it to the bedroom

Helpful guidelines

You’ve got a friend in lube
Pressure on inner walls can hurt without it, so smooth the way and reapply often. Having the bottle very nearby can help with putting more on without needing to pull out.
Tune in
It makes such a difference feeling sure a partner is always ready to stop if you ask. Part of the joy of Adding is trust. So over-communication is a good idea when exploring, constantly checking in to make sure it’s feeling good.
Our own two hands
Some women add their own finger while a partner’s finger is inside. It’s a good way to show what feels best inside, while inside. And it can be a nice way to ease in to adding fingers.
Gentle playful stretches
Playful exploration such as a gentle side-to-side motion of the finger can help prepare for a second finger. A little levity and sense of play can go a long way to easing tension and finding the wonderful ‘yes-right-there’ kinds of pressure.

Most common challenges

Speed kills
It’s tempting to go fast. But Adding rarely feels good before building up arousal. The discomfort from “too much too soon” can really kill the mood.
Keep em clipped
This may go without saying but, wow, is it very important to cut your nails when experimenting with Adding. Some even use a latex glove, which may sound unsexy but you’d be surprised - it actually feels nice when it’s your partner and their hand is so smooth and warm. Especially with fisting, it’s nice to have that extra slipperiness.
Limits
There’s “good stretch” and there’s “ouch stretch.” Take your time learning the limits and stop if there’s ever an ouch. It should never ever feel like tearing.
Not for everyone
If all the warm-up in the world isn’t getting you there, don’t force it. Go with what feels good.